As i approaches 22, think i should be SLIGHTLY more mature bah.. so i will start off today with a more thought provoking topic. Today was walking aimlessly and a thought suddenly just struck me. I have also realised that my idea of whats important in a relationship is a bit wrong. Or rather i feel that what is the primary factor of a relationship is wrong (to myself that is). I used to think that in any relationship ..the most primary factor is Trust.. however, now i feel that trust is indeed in any relationship, but it might not be the primary factor. I think i sort of realised it from my personal experience bah.. To me now, i would think that TIME instead is a primary factor in any relationship. Let me explain a bit what do i mean by time. Time would mean , availability in short. How much time would u give to a relationship be it a love relationship, friendship, and any committees. Time also mean the presence of the physical self also known as making time for others. How much effort u took to make time for others.
With time sort of defined, i shall now explain my case bah. Firstly, let me start off with a simple analogy. To me any relationship is like a handphone battery. As the days go by, the battery will wear off and needs to be recharged.Thus, similar to any relationship, as time goes by u will slowly drift away from one another if you don't meet up physically. Spending time with people is like recharging the battery, thus u will recharge the bond between you and anyone. I believe that the best gift that you can give to anyone , would be your time. Why is that so? Because our our life is simply measured by the amount of time we have to live. Spending this vital time you have with someone would therefore mean a lot wouldn't it?
In a relationship i would believe that how well it will turn out, would be dependent on how much time and effort you spend in it. If there is a currency in any relationship , i believe that time would be the currency. The common cliche " Time is money" ; like any trust fund, the more money u put in the more u get, playing with words, the more time you invest in a relationship , the more trust you get from the other party.
It may not make any sense bah. In a nutshell, i believe that how well any relationship would turn out, is directly proportional to the amount of time you are going to invest into it. The more time you spend with someone, the more chance you allow someone to know you and you get to know him. Thats why i try my best to make time for any friendship that i may have. I believe that thats the best way i can repay anyone for being my fren , by giving them my time. Of course, i would believe that anyone who often do not have time for me would mean that our friendship is just not that important bah.. For such cases, naturally i would be insulted and since i am one who never like to be one who is losing out, i would feel that since you don't find it significant, naturally i woun't bother putting any more effort into it bah..
On a lighter note, just remembered a funny incident that happened recently. Was on board a train and i saw this happening. 2 ladies entered the train, and the person sitting beside me suddenly stood up and offered his seat to the one of the ladies.Well naturally she was shocked, cos she look like only in her late forties at most.. and deep down inside i think she must really feel very insulted.. that lady immediately look around her hoping that there is this slight chance that it is not her.. well , apparently not.. SHE IS THE CHOSEN ONE... well her fren is not helping when she started laughing lah and say"its you lah".. if i m that lady i tink i would just hope that a hole appear and suck me in lah... than her reply was (laughingly) tell the guy that no need she alighting the next stop... mk was also ard than..than i asked him about the incident..he felt that the lady shouldn't be laughing bah.. making that guy look like an idiot....well wat do you think?
Anyway with regards to wat i have written would appreciate greatly if any of you who read it feedback to me ... at least i noe someone is reading and help me fine tune my thoughts..thanks in advance
Reading the first comment reminded me of something which i have forgotten to write. Another reason why a relationship is like a battery, is because like a battery if u charge everyday no doubt that it will always be charged but there is a chance that it will just spoil. Likewise a relationship if u meet too often it is not going to help .. although you will still be friends but you will notice that your friendship is not progressing because your friends are simply taking your presence advantage .. thats why u must provide your presence only when in need bah.. An extreme case would be that u become too irritating and in the end the friendship sour...
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heyo! haha i'll be the first to write anything at all then haha... yah! nv realised until u point out, TIME is indeed an impt factor. tt's how we realise in a group when someone doesnt appear for a few times, s/he will gradually be forgotten or not included anymore. but there are also cases where u dun get to meet often, but the chemistry is still there everytime u meet up. weird uh? juz like my "beSt freN" n i.... but oh well since we dun really spend a lot of time tgt, we naturally wun confide to each other tt often... so yah u're rite haha in some way not as close.
as for the giving up of seat incident haha... tt's y there's cases where we struggle whether we shld give up a seat when someone who seems old-yet-not-so-old comes on board! haha!
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